Reflecting back on this year, two words gratitude and patience stand out. Their meanings have become very apparent.
Gratitude – When I notice everything around me. I feel grateful. I’m laid in bed right now but I’m grateful I have shelter while the rain pours outside; I’m grateful my dog is lying next to me (even better she is on her own side); I’m grateful to be wrapped in a cosy duvet, safe and warm. These things are small but it is this detail that has helped get me through this year.
I had a blessing bowl in my living room. Each day I wrote down 3 things that I was grateful for. After doing this for a month I realised that no matter what happened in that day, there was always something to be thankful for.
*Harris (2007) rejoices: “count your blessings and feel the richness around you”. Feeling grateful helps me see my world in a better light. It gives me a boost knowing I have what I need and I am okay.
Patience – I don’t mean feeling annoyed because Sex Education finished and its weeks before the next series (I’ll never be that patient). I mean waiting until I have rested enough to be able to do a thing. Yesterday we bought a Christmas tree. Like most, I was excited to get home and decorate the tree but I grew too tired and rested instead. Tomorrow’s another day.
These qualities had such a great effect on me, but why?
The psychology bit…Our minds can influence our emotions. Good feelings can be from the smallest of things; tidying a room or watching the sunset. Our health comes first. Stuff can wait. If we stop to appreciate everything around us, feel good hormones are released and our mood is boosted.
Pics taken from the book: The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse by Charlie Mackesy (2019).
*Russ Harris. The Happiness Trap (2007).